Several months ago a movement was started by Gay Hendricks and Arjuna Ardagh on Facebook. They wrote a piece called “A Manifesto for Conscious Men”. It created quite a stir from many women, who were moved to tears; men who agreed we need to change; and men who weren’t sure this was the right change (or who just didn’t understand).
Recently they added a YouTube video and you can see that here.
The comments would have given you an idea of how split people are on this (and many other topics now)…. those who want a “change” and are moving toward it; those who want “change”, but not the responsibility (ability to respond) required; and those who frankly want us to go back to the safer, “known” ground (that isn’t there any longer – but they don’t “know” that). However, there was so much activity, they had to disable the comments. So, if you want to read on this, you will have to “like” the Facebook page.
I sent this video to a lot of people on my e-mail list and received one reply from a woman (who lives in a pretty male-dominated, patriarchal area (as I do) who said, “This is beautiful… if it were only true. I think it would be safe to say that as a whole, 99.99% still believe they are superior to women and always will be. I used to say if I could raise my son better than my mother-in-law raised hers, I’d be doing something. I’m pretty sure it is genetic, they feel their needs are to be met first and fore most. Right or wrong, that’s the way I see it. We’ll always love them, but as a whole I don’t see them changing. It would be nice though! I have a brother-in-law whole still thinks he is the BOSS of the family and its only his opinion that counts. Can you believe that? He says the bible says so, the wife must be submissive to her husband! They read no further, husband must treat his wife better than himself!”
The true, feminine face has been missing for so long in our cultures – that it’s possible we (women and men) don’t even know what it is (are confused). My friend’s e-mail sounded like she wishes for it to change, but isn’t willing to lend her positive energy to the cause. If she really wanted it to change, wouldn’t she be talking about how wonderful the video was (without arguing why it will always be like that), or talking about what we both can do to clear out our old stuck patriarchal patterns or male-energy ways of doing things, etc.?
I have to admit, when I first discovered that my adrenal glands were exhausted and struck out on a alternative or holistic health journey, I had no idea about masculine versus feminine energy. Like many others in western culture. I assumed a person was a man or a woman… period end. People talk about “energy” all the time… but what is it and why figure that out, unless you “have to”. Well, I had to…. I had health issues that the doctors didn’t see, didn’t believe, and couldn’t help me with. I had created them on the energy level and they needed to be also healed on that level.
I’d created a lot of it by being too much in my “male” – or “doing” energy. The feminist movement was wonderful and got us moving… out of those old servitude roles were we trapped in for so long – but it got us out by “competing” with men. It was great and it was necessary and I am grateful to those suffragists and feminists who came before and gave me opportunities I would have never had. However, this is a new time…. and we must BE in our balance (our personal balance) of masculine / feminine – respective to our own life to bring about something new. In my astrology, I have nine planets in feminine houses and five in masculine houses. This gives me an indication of what percentage is best for ME for my personal balance. Others are different and their balance is different and that is good for them and good for me, that we aren’t all the same.
If we wish for men to be in their feminine energy more easily and effortlessly (when required), then should we expect the men to do this first, or should we stop doing so much…. Stop wearing ourselves out…. Just stop…. Slow down…. and instead of Do-Be-Do-Be-Do (Frank Sinatra style) – shift into Be-Do-Be-Do-Be…. at least relative to our personal masculine / feminine energy balance? If women continue to do, do, do, they often will be brought to a screeching halt. We must change the balance of energies on the planet and the more we accept this period as a healing time, the sooner I believe we will find our balance.
Which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Does God change things, or do we? So, if we have been out of balance with our male / female energy… and WE corrected that, would that bring the feminine side of God back – or did she return already and we are just having a hard time dealing with it (so foreign to us)? Maybe we are more powerful creators ourselves than we know (being God’s children) and everything works in conjunction? Maybe we need to stop waiting for someone outside of us to return and save the day – God, Jesus, our husband, our friend?
Maybe WE can change the world when we change our views?