Sometimes I think it all began when I stopped driving.
Some years ago I moved to a big city and quickly realised I wouldn’t need a car there. After decades of driving I found myself walking, riding my bicycle or sitting in the back of a taxi-cab. In the beginning I would get in the driver’s seat on occasion – on holidays or for trips outside the city, but I did it less and less so.
I have not resumed driving yet.
This is how significant change happens. One day you cease doing something. It is not avoiding, stopping or deciding to do differently – you cease doing something because there is no need anymore, and along with it no more desire to keep the habit alive. You don’t miss it, you don’t want it back – you just move on. And you adapt to the new life-style. Start wearing different shoes, taking an umbrella everywhere, pick up a new gait and become a people watcher. Life as a pedestrian lived to the fullest.
Whatever we do has a significant influence on our life and everyone around us. To try something new is exciting and a little bit scary. It changes the game plan and one step leads to the other. But we never know what that will be. When I became a pedestrian I did not know the joy and perils of walking in a big city and I met and mastered both. This is how we learn and form new patterns.
So this is how we adapt to change after we realised that we have lived a life based on assumptions that no longer hold. Once recognised that we are not who we thought we are a process unfolds that is getting the better of us. One leads to the other. More presence leads to dropping resistance. Less resistance leads to becoming more aware of the senses. Higher sensitivity leads to insights and a new focal point is being created – a new centre for ensuing change.
This is how it happens naturally and this is the deeper meaning of “ not doing anything”. It happens by it’s natural course. But better be aware that you are standing in your own way, grasping and holding on to those things or habits you no longer need – like a pedestrian does not need a car for walking.